This idea goes back to a Greek philosopher named Epictetus who said, “Men are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of things. This means that your thoughts – not actual events – create your moods. Only one person in the world can ever make you feel depressed, worried, or angry – and that person is you.
This idea can change your life when you understand that your feelings result more from the way you think about things than from what actually happens. This is true about how you view the future as well.
Positive states of mind can act as antidotes to negative or harmful tendencies. Recognizing the inevitability of suffering and the impermanence of life, coupled with an appreciation of the enormity of human potential, allows for the development of optimism and genuine transformation and change.
To bring about change, first a strong willingness to change is needed. Next it is necessary to develop a sense of enthusiasm and urgency. Urgency is the key to utilizing the potential that lies within.
The awareness of impermanence coupled with a sense of great human potential creates urgency and the desire to use every precious moment. Patience, insight, and tolerance can enhance one’s capacity to develop a positive state of mind and allow you to be more available to make improvements.
Therapy can help you to identify your issues and can help you to develop an understanding of how these issues are impacting your life. Avenues for positive change can be explored and change can happen. Overcoming negative behavior patterns equals happiness.
Susan Mason, M.S.Ed., M.S., LGPC, can be contacted at 301-712-9015 ext. 1038, or firstname.lastname@example.org